Happy or unhappy, families are all mysterious. We have only to imagine how differently we would be described - and will be, after our deaths - by each of the family members who believe they know us.
Mama grizzlies mate later than other bears. They have two cubs instead of four. They wait four years - about twice as long as other bears - between having cubs. And after they're pregnant, if winter is hard or their health is not good or the food supply is uncertain, they re-absorb the embryo into their body.
Without leaps of imagination, or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning.
The error that we tend to make is that we think that women's magazines are what editors want and what their readers want - and thus are social indicators - when, in fact, they are what advertisers want. They're just advertising indicators.
Being misunderstood by people whose opinions you value is absolutely the most painful.
After feminism, I suddenly realised: not everyone has to live the same way. Imagine that!
A pedestal is as much a prison as any small, confined space.
When I'm talking to groups that are all men, we talk about how the masculine role limits them. They often want to talk about how they missed having real fathers, real loving, present fathers, because of the way that they tried to fit the picture of masculinity.
We'll never solve the feminization of power until we solve the masculinity of wealth.
I hate to generalize, but in general, both men and women suffer from ageism. Men much less because men gain power as they get older. Women lose power as they get older. Men are seen as gaining experience and being distinguished. Sons look forward to replacing their fathers.
I've yet to be on a campus where most women weren't worrying about some aspect of combining marriage, children, and a career. I've yet to find one where many men were worrying about the same thing.
From pacifist to terrorist, each person condemns violence - and then adds one cherished case in which it may be justified.
I looked up affirmative action once in Wikipedia, and it said, 'A measure by which white men are discriminated against,' and I got so mad.
The deepest change begins with men raising children as much as women do and women being equal actors in the world outside the home. There are many ways of supporting that, from something as simple as paid sick leave and flexible work hours to attributing an economic value to all caregiving and making that amount tax deductible.
Childbirth is more admirable than conquest, more amazing than self-defense, and as courageous as either one.
Whatever each individual woman is facing - only she knows her biggest challenge.
If you say, I'm for equal pay, that's a reform. But if you say. I'm a feminist, that's a transformation of society.
Obviously, there is much similarity among the challenges of transgender people and all women - from health care to harassment to discrimination in the workplace.
Nothing changes the gender equation more significantly than women's economic freedom.
We've begun to raise daughters more like sons... but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters.