Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you.' Mature love says 'I need you because I love you.'
Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties.
The mother-child relationship is paradoxical and, in a sense, tragic. It requires the most intense love on the mother's side, yet this very love must help the child grow away from the mother, and to become fully independent.
The psychic task which a person can and must set for himself is not to feel secure, but to be able to tolerate insecurity.
Man is the only animal for whom his own existence is a problem which he has to solve.
As we ascend the social ladder, viciousness wears a thicker mask.
Mother's love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved.
Greed is a bottomless pit which exhausts the person in an endless effort to satisfy the need without ever reaching satisfaction.
If I am what I have and if I lose what I have who then am I?
Both dreams and myths are important communications from ourselves to ourselves. If we do not understand the language in which they are written, we miss a great deal of what we know and tell ourselves in those hours when we are not busy manipulating the outside world.
In love the paradox occurs that two beings become one and yet remain two.
Selfish persons are incapable of loving others, but they are not capable of loving themselves either.
There is perhaps no phenomenon which contains so much destructive feeling as moral indignation, which permits envy or hate to be acted out under the guise of virtue.
The task we must set for ourselves is not to feel secure, but to be able to tolerate insecurity.
Man's main task in life is to give birth to himself, to become what he potentially is. The most important product of his effort is his own personality.
The danger of the past was that men became slaves. The danger of the future is that men may become robots.
Just as modern mass production requires the standardization of commodities, so the social process requires standardization of man, and this standardization is called equality.
If a person loves only one other person and is indifferent to all others, his love is not love but a symbiotic attachment, or an enlarged egotism.
Love is union with somebody, or something, outside oneself, under the condition of retaining the separateness and integrity of one's own self.
Authority is not a quality one person 'has', in the sense that he has property or physical qualities. Authority refers to an interpersonal relation in which one person looks upon another as somebody superior to him.